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Friday, December 28, 2007

Thinking of others...


A gift from the heart is something that someone has taken their time to make for another. It is one-of-a-kind...even if it comes from a kit or pattern. And it is filled with love.
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This Christmas I gave two of my special friends basket liners that I made with each of them in mind. The liners fit into baskets for them to hold their knitting projects. I decided to secretly make my daughter one too. Her material is up above. The multi-colored material has trolls on it and the complimentary color is pink with white polka dots. Colors just for her! Pockets line the inside and out to hold necessities. In return, my daughter secretively made me the pictured doll. It is the best present I received this year. I know it was made with love. I have pulled the dolls dress up a bit in this picture so you can see her legs. It was completely crocheted - for ME! Fat Lily couldn't help herself and just had to be in the photo.
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Being able to think of others and put them first is a special gift that not everyone possesses. It is unfortunate that as a parent I have to raise my children in such a selfish world. There are plenty of examples of selfishness. Too few are the examples of giving.
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Where do you fit in the world? Are you a giver or a selfish taker? What/Who are the inspirations you strive to be like? How are you thought of and how will you be remembered?
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Monday, December 24, 2007

Christmas as a little girl...


Merry Christmas Eve to all. As I look at my Christmas tree and the decorations that adorn it, I recall a past that seems to have belonged to someone else.
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~the hand writing is on a yellowed slip of paper; the flip side of a blank prescription, Dr. John J. Gallinatti at the top and it reads as follows:
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Christmas Eve Dinner 1971
Oplatky - Host -
Bread -
D poppie seed balls -
G - Nutroll -
G - Poppie seed roll -
Sauerkaut & mushrooms -
D - Bean & Barley -
Perogy -
Lima Beans -
mashed potatoes -
Prunes -
herring marinitti -
herring sourcream -
~not edited! The "D" stands for Dolly and the "G" for Grandma Scubelek
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I can't recall the afternoons, but I do know the magic that happened on Christmas Eve when I was small.
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Mom would probably spend the morning and early afternoon preparing her part of the feast. Then sometime after lunch we'd have to get ready, into our Sunday best. I'd wear a fancy dress, knee high socks and my patent leather shoes. My curly hair couldn't be tamed, but was pulled back out of my eyes and into a little pony tail, topped with a bow.
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Once ready we all would head to my grandparents; my dad's parents house. The ethnicity was Polish, very different from my other grandparents Italian/Irish mix. There was always an air of 'properness' or formality that prevailed at my G & G Scubelek's.
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The family that gathered numbered 14 or 15. It was the four of us, my dad's older sister, her husband, their five children, my uncle's mom (Grandma Gallinatti), maybe Uncle John's sister (Sister Francis) and my grandparents. Dinner was served in two courses. First the Oplatky with the soup. I do not know if the spelling of Oplatky is correct, but it is blessed host. Every person was given a small two-inch square and expected to go around the table and greet everyone. You hold out your oplatky to another person and say, "health and happiness" as the recipient breaks off a piece of your oplatky and eats it. In return, they say the same to you and you break off a piece from their section and eat it. Once you have spoken to everyone you sit down and eat your bean and barley soup.
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After soup all the other food is placed on the table and passed around. My favorites from that meal were the bean and barley soup, the perogies, the herring in sour cream and the poppy seed roll. There was so much food that I don't even recall dessert nor is it on my "list" of what we had. I recall the adults drinking coffee after dinner, but maybe what else was going on distracted me.
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Sometime late in our meal my uncle, who was a doctor would get an emergency phone call. He would have to leave and go take care of a patient. A little while later something incredible would happen...Santa would knock on my grandparent's door! I do remember a few Christmas' where I was so scared. He knew who I was and how to find me! He'd pat my back and say, "Come here Lisa and sit on Santa's knee. Tell me what you want for Christmas and have you been a good little girl?" He knew me. My parents would put their hand in the middle of my back and push me towards this jolly old elf. "It's okay," they'd say. "It's Santa." After I sat on his knee and listened to his familiar voice he'd reach into his bag and pull out a gift wrapped with my name on it. He'd repeat this with all my cousins and my brother then and we'd all happily unwrap our gift.
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After Santa would leave my uncle would soon return and say his patient was going to be fine. He'd ask if he'd missed anything and we'd all show him our gifts. He'd act so sad that he'd missed Santa once again.
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When my grandparents moved from that home in Glen Park, Santa stopped coming to our Christmas Eve dinner. By then we were all much older and definitely wise to the voice connected with our Santa. We still gathered for that feast though. I still love Bean & Barley soup, perogies and herring in cream sauce. Today I am going to try to make a poppy seed roll.
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When my mom passed away I wanted a few of her cook books. What a treasure trove I have now. Old recipes I thought weren't written down. Hand writing from several of my loved ones who no longer walk on earth. I certainly feel connected to my parents today.

Friday, December 21, 2007

Bluebird of Happiness




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“The gifts we treasure most over the years are often small and simple. In easy times and tough times, what seems to matter most is the way we show those nearest us that we've been listening to their needs, to their joys, and to their challenges" -- Fred Rogers

Thursday, December 20, 2007

Details...


Creativity....
...it oozes out of my daughter...

Little folks very active...


It's that time of year when even the "little folks", who are very busy, have some fun.

Indoor cat, Jack, would rather be warm - his curiosity is all gone. Too cold, too bright and not enough easy to get to food. He cares less about his company.

Not much snow in southern Indiana.

Friday, December 07, 2007

Treats...

My good friend is an awesome baker. She made these Gingerbread cupcakes from scratch.

Within the hour I will get to sample this delectible treat.

Be jealous. Be VERY jealous!

More later on her treats...

Wednesday, December 05, 2007

OMG!!!!! Ahh-ha moment... and Modern Technology


Weird, scary, eye opening, getting older...just a few words to cross my brain this week. Also, no-way-possible, OMG, and humm...maybe that's why we found those results...
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Another word in my current vocabulary, menopause?. Note the question mark does need to be attached to the end of that word.
Yes, I did take a home pregnancy test this week. Yes, I am on day 45 of my normal 26 day cycle. Yes, my husband did have a vasectomy 13 years ago. No, I have not participated in any extra-curricular activities! Sammy Hagar hasn't knocked on my door yet.
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As I sat waiting those two long minutes for the results I totally knew would be negative, I had one of those "Ahh-ha" moments. I suddenly thought, this is probably why we found those pregnancy test results from my mom when we were going through her house. She probably didn't think she was really pregnant. But, this is the first step in ruling things out. Mom ended up having a hysterectomy at the age of 50. According to what I have read, peri-menopause can start years before true menopause sets in. I am only 43. Is this early to start this cycle of my life? I can't ask my mom about her "issues" at my age. We didn't talk about such things. Mom wouldn't have used a "home" pregnancy test either. They may not have been very common then and if they were they certainly were costly and not completely reliable.
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I am SO glad to know that I am not pregnant. I have never regretted the fact that my husband and I have decided to stop having kids when we did. It was the absolute right choice for me/us. Being pregnant was tough on my body. I do believe pregnancy exasperated my blood pressure issues. Also, I'll admit it, I am selfish. I want time alone with my husband again. I love the time we have with our kids, but I am looking forward to the day when it is just the two of us again.
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On Monday afternoon I told my children what was up. I don't want them to think their dad and I were trying to get pregnant again. I want them to be informed. Shortly after that I sat in the orthodontist office waiting on my oldest as he had his retainer check up when my youngest called via cell phone. "I have news to share Mom," she said..."I started my period."