My father was my first love and I did put him up on a pedestal. When he died suddenly I was devastated but, I was 21 and my relationship with my dad had evolved.
Still, I loved having a father figure in my life. Someone I could have things in common with (my love of the beach and ocean), someone I could do things with (take my kids fishing when they were little), someone who seemed proud of what I was doing in my life and someone I could ask advice from and I knew they had my best interests in mind.
Naturally my Father-in-Law (FIL) ended up filling that bill for my need to have a father still in my life. I have been such a lucky girl!
|with my FIL...October 2011|
Three weeks ago though my FIL, who is 86 and surprisingly enough is aging, hit a little bump in life. He has spent his recent time going back and forth from the hospital to a nearby nursing home rehab facility. He has not been home...nor is he okay. If you talk to my MIL, she'll sing a different song than I do. I understand, he is just my father-in-law...he is not my husband or dad.
Two days ago my FIL didn't remember who I was. Because I had been there at 4 in the afternoon, I thought maybe he was just tired and needed rest. I went back yesterday at noon. No change. I am still struggling to deal with this. I am gun shy on going back today. What a chicken I am.
Could this be medication induced? Or is this just where things have progressed with his dementia?
Family members who do not live nearby do not call or email me to ask how things are going. Life goes on and that's fine. Really it is. I don't even know what to say anymore.
I am very glad we gently pushed for all to come a visit my FIL this past fall.